myheartbelongstochrist:

A word on relationships
From an old blog of mine:

If you run they will follow, if you follow they will run. Basically, women, don’t chase a man, let him chase you. The surest way to get your heart broken is to initiate a relationship. Give him time to notice you. Do you think Adam would have appreciated Eve if he hadn’t first named all the animals and noticed that he was missing a helper? Allowing him to lead the relationship is training ground for him to play his role as a leader, and it is training ground for you to learn how to submit. (He initiates, you respond)

Date a person who has a full life without you, not men/women who “cannot not be in a relationship.” Remember in the end, TWO shall become ONE. That means 1+1= 1, not ½ + ½ =1. mathematically that doesn’t make sense but relationally two people need to be whole [fulfilled on their own] before they link their lives with each other.

Give people freedom. If you love someone, let him go. If he comes back, he’s yours. If not, he never was.

If God is love, then true love happens when you find God in the heart of another.

Refuse to initiate relationships with men: Consider Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord,” or Proverbs 31:10 “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.”

Women, (looking to settle down) never accept a man without a stable job. A man’s primary roles are to protect and to provide. Men, never accept a woman who refuses to let you lead. A woman’s primary roles are to submit and to help.

And if he/she hasn’t come along, He’s still preparing him/her for you, and God is still teaching you how to love someone; remember, being PATIENT is the first element of love. (1 Cor 13)