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I’m sure all of us have at one point in our lives have feared & have experienced rejection. Like, what do you do when the one you love & would do anything for, leaves you for reasons that won’t & will never make sense to you? What do you do when the friends you trusted most, betray you or sell you out? What do you do when you change for the better but people don’t even give you a chance to show it & they still hold you to your past? What do you do when you’ve done something horrible & you ask the person or people you hurt to forgive you, but they won’t? What do you when you have to make a big life choice & your family doesn’t agree with it? What do you do when people can’t accept you for who you are or can’t accept what you believe in or Who you believe in? Not that I’ve experienced all of these, but some…I have.
The truth is, rejection hurts. Each episode of rejection creates a new wound that requires time to heal. & some wounds are worse than others.
As a nurse, I take care of wounds for a living. & there are these wounds called pressure ulcers, which basically is when the tissue starts to die due to unrelieved pressure on the skin. A stage 3 pressure ulcer means it’s so bad that all the layers of the skin are destroyed. Once a pressure sore hits stage 3 or 4 (getting to the muscle, tendons, & bone now), even if it heals…the tissue will NEVER be the same. It can more easily break down again & recreate the wound that’s already taken so much time to heal over.
Sometimes I feel that way from some of scars I’ve collected over the years. Mostly, I fear getting hurt again. I fear trusting people. I fear letting people in & letting them see the real me. I fear rejection. & honestly it’s been easier just to keep to myself. But I’ll also admit, although it may feel safer…it’s also very lonely not allowing yourself to be open to others.
So then I ask God how. How can I get over this fear of all these different forms of rejection? The lovely thing is, every time I ask God something, He always gives me an answer. His answer this time? The cross.
John 1:10-11 says “He was in the world, & the world was made by Him & the world knew Him not. He came to his own, & his own people did not receive him.” His own people. His own people rejected him. He was despised by them. Even with all the wisdom he shared with them, all the miracles he performed, all the grace & mercy he gave them, all the love he showed towards them; even when their unbelief was without excuse, still they rejected him. They treated their best friend as though he had been their worst enemy. They handed him over - the Christ who stepped down in love - to be nailed to the cross. They spat at him, they beat him, they ridiculed him, & his own disciples abandoned him. & even in the greatest act of love the world will ever know, when he gladly laid down his life for them, for us…they rejected him. & still to this day, people continue to reject him. His response? Unconditional love.
Christ experienced the worst kind of rejection. So what excuse do I have? What do I have to be afraid of? Jesus said in John 15:18 “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.” This next year, I don’t want to be afraid of rejection anymore. I don’t want my past to cripple me. Sure, life is gonna suck sometimes. I’ll still get hurt. Scars from old wounds might reopen. But I want to step into this new year with confidence knowing that no matter what form of rejection life will throw my way, that Christ has overcome the world & I can take heart in that. I can take heart that in him, all things hold together.
- Jarrid Wilson (via cartazstefany)